News Corp is a global, diversified media and information services company focused on creating and distributing authoritative and engaging content and other products and services. Dow Jones. By Amy Chua. To Read the Full Story. Subscribe Sign In. Continue reading your article with a WSJ membership. Neither were we given monetary rewards for straight As. We took piano and violin lessons because we asked for them, not because our parents forced them upon us.
Though, having started, our parents wouldn't let us just quit taking lessons simply because we were tired of practicing—they required a good reason. We were required to speak Chinese when we were at home, which irritated us as kids but has been a blessing for us as adults. My parents didn't force me toward law school or med school, and while it was a bit strange for them to accept the idea of me becoming a stay-at-home dad, they've been supportive of me regardless. According to Chua's article, my parents were not Chinese parents.
Maybe that's why we haven't accomplished the sorts of things that Chua considers successful. But my parents are okay with that, and so am I. Though all the participants were Asian American, we ran the gamut from first-generation to fifth-generation.
Some were raised by Caucasian parents, one had a rebelling-against-tiger-mom hippie mom, some related experiences that made Chua seem tame in comparison. It was enlightening, to hear of the vastly different ways that we had been raised, but the common thread was that nobody endorsed the extreme "tiger mothering" reported in the article. Do a search for "Amy Chua" or "Chinese mothers" and you're bound to turn up story after story of Asian Americans who are still reeling from the effects of this sort of parenting—or stories of siblings who committed suicide because of it.
One participant in the phone call remarked that it felt like group therapy, being able to air these issues with each other. I also learned, though, that the Wall Street Journal article doesn't tell the whole story. I suppose by now that should come as no surprise. Yang shared that he had actually picked up the book and read the entire thing, and that the article does her a disservice—the particular excerpts used for the article, the headline not chosen by Chua , and the way it was presented all paint a very one-sided picture of this self-proclaimed "tiger mother.
Yes, Chua is an extreme example of Chinese mothering, but the book is apparently more nuanced, more of a memoir and less of a how-to. Of course, the article will sell books. We already know it generated buzz—as of this writing it had already generated over comments.
I'm sure the collected responses to that single article have already surpassed the word count of the book itself many times over. In the end, here is my hope: that parents, Asian or not, would take the time to consider what constitutes success.
The novel introduces us to characters that have lost their inner soul spirits that contain their Chinese heritage. The mothers know that their Chinese traditions and language are a necessary factor in dealing with their everyday life. The mothers also know that the new American traditions are needed to succeed in their new home. The mothers encourage English speaking, but also want to preserve their Chinese language. Author Chua relates her own experiences with her parents teaching style and how they make her feel like a piece of trash when she talked back to them.
However, she explains that had made her a better person, and she had more respect toward her parents. Since more and more people focused on how to cultivate the next generation, the difference between Chinese and Western parenting styles would arouse controversy.
It seems like Chinese and Western parenting methods are totally different, which give both Chinese and Western parents a shock. However, what interesting is that both parenting methods can foster elitists. I believe in positive reinforcement, and constructive criticism is the best way to encourage a child. Children need guidance and discipline from their parents to teach them the skills to become a successful adult. The traditional Chinese way of parenting is only one of the many ways to parent, however, it is the one way known to produce the most intelligent and high achieving children.
Their miscommunication also has a part in this, as their communications are limited and they both struggle with the expectations that they have for each other. Therefore, as the daughters learn more about their cultural heritage, their comprehension of their Chinese heritage improves. As the daughters grow up to be adults, they start to realize how their mothers show their love to them, and as they become more appreciative of their mother, their attitude changes over the course of time to create an appreciation and respect that had not been there before.
As a result of the implementation of the policy, China is facing a gender imbalance. Nowadays, Chinese boys greatly outnumber Chinese girls. This is only a short compilation of the number of sources I will eventually have, as I plan to find much more information as I continue my research.
The importance of providing clear and correct sexual health education by the education school system is also of great importance because as many Chinese citizens are increasingly having premarital sexual relationships without concise or clear sexual health education, this poses the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, HIV, unplanned pregnancies, Wen, S.
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